Help Please! Advice i have been in an long term realationship am I wrong for feeling like he just don't care.?

We have 2 kids I recently had a miscarraige I was in the hospital all day and he only called once i know he just started his new job but even if i had started a new job i wouldve been calling or texting to make sure he was okay.i missed a day of work b/c of this an sat there alone.On top of that i feel stress Im taking care of the kids and etc he gets mad for spending 100 dollars on me.Do he know how much i spend taking care of these kids alone . I take care of them he missed our son first graduation i felt bad.It seems to me that he think if he calls thats enough.Am I wrong for feeling like thats just not enough.He can get anywhere he wants but he never bust his a** to be here with us.Im hurt sometimes i feel like he is so mean at times and then sometimes he is all i need him to be.What do you guys think.Am i just being a ***** or serioulsy i think he should do more.We so call arent not together but nothing has change from when we was together.He get upsets when i let him know im not goin worry about us being together no more.idk its so much going on i love him this is a man i been with for a very long time but you would think by now he will be more emotional and senstive he say to me last night he the only one that cares about me and he said i treat him like the bad guy how..yes im mad that you are sitting in a bar why im at home cramping and bleeding from the lost of our child im emotinal hurt.. HELP ADVICE SOMEONE!Is there anything i can show him that i need alll of him not half.He always say i ruin his day but im not trying to do that im trying to show him i care i want us to work and you say you do too but how.He swear out everyday suppose to be perfect and its not.idk u guys help pleasee!!